This Russian thing has cheered me up a bit. Kirri appears to be OK and no more nastiness there than the underlying level either and I'll be seeing him tomorrow as he's going to MK with some friends and needs a lift.
I wrote to Anna in some detail. I shall be honest from the start and see where it goes. What I liked immediately was her reference in a long, well-written e-mail to the number of men who use text speak and remarks like 'babe' or 'hun' which put her off at the very start! Reminded me that those were the sort of expressions N used these days and how they made me cringe. She went on to write very intelligently about judging men on how they structured their sentences, vocabulary and so on which probably sounds awful but appealed to me and it wasn't meant in the school mistress-type way that probably came out. So I got off on the right foot and challenge anyone to compare on that front if there is competition! I also get the impression that she isn't going to ask me to visit next week or whatever like some do when it is clearly totally impracticable and also extremely risky when all you have is a few pictures and a bundle of e-mails. I like intelligent girls and she is definitely one. Dumb sexy ones have a certain alternative appeal but I have to be realistic and see that I would sooner or later upset them.
Back to England and Mum called with some ridiculous story about Rupert. She thinks he's taken the money he gave her in an envelope. Every month or so, or earlier if she needs it, he delivers a bit of cash for her. A while ago she'd been complaining that she hadn't got any and yet he was convinced that she must have had loads and was tucking it away and forgetting where she'd put it. So he's started a system of getting her to sign for what he gave her. He hated doing it but it was meant to help him resolve any future disputes and worked. Or, at least, it had worked until now. She was saying that she'd signed for it but that he must have gone off with it. Then she maintained that he'd been in league with someone across the road and so on. When she said she was going to tell the police I thought I'd better do something, though, other than smile at her crazy story. So I said that it all sounded very 'difficult' (I couldn't think of a better adjective as I daredn't give any indication of not believing her or she'd have a go at me!). Just wanted her to carry on telling me about these things as often that sort of resolves it for her and she doesn't sit and brood and do something silly. It seemed to work.
So that's another problem I need to watch out for! It is sad really, and an indication that she is beginning to lose touch with the real world and developing her own scenarios in her mind. These seem so real to her, though, that she forms judgments and acts upon them. Such a shame for Rupert who really does get all the hassle from her over everything. He does lots but gets little thanks. He does have this habit, though, of blowing up and losing his temper and shouting at her. It's happened most times we've been together in Doddington and it's never really right to do that. I manage to stay calm and I guess that's why she still talks to me. just as well. I have had my own run ins and phone slamming but nothing massive like this.
I haven't yet had a reply from Rupert about some more money and now don't feel I should raise it. I'll see how things go. He won't know she's told me and may not even know that's what she's thinking. It would be a definite 'light blue touch paper' affair if she were to say that to him as well!
Spent the rest of the day and evening going through yet more of Harold's letters and they inspire me to do this even more. One day I would dearly love to gather them all into a book - even a blog, perhaps! I was thinking about this and, without Vincent's replies. thought it wouldn't make that much sense but then I had a great idea - I could write what Vincent might have said, based on his diaries at the time or, in the absence of any entries of relevance for some periods, I could just make up some conversation. I can be pretty sure I'd know what the general themes would be and how he would approach them. I could also get his style of speech right off the page and be very convincing. It could be a quite unique and fascinating project. Who knows, maybe that will be my salvation. Thanks be to Harold and Vincent. An all stations West.
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